hahaha yes

being vegan is about not contributing to animal cruelty & suffering!

and I guarantee you that consensually swallowing my bf’s semen does not make him feel mistreated in any way

the poem isn’t about me being ashamed of my body, it’s about acknowledging the privilege I have as a thin person in a fatphobic society! :)

yeah, that was me haha

aww YAY good, that’s awesome to hear. so glad you like it!

thank you for the feedback, i really appreciate it. hope you’re having a lovely day  ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ

haha maybe I should’ve been more specific about the type of potato salad! I meant a creamy one, something traditionally made with mayo.

Recreating a vegan version of that wouldn’t be difficult either, just have to sub mayo for vegenaise! Q: so why haven’t you made it yet? A: I’m lazy and I dislike preparing potatoes sshhhh <3333

I don’t quite know exactly how long it took for the specific feeling I describe in that post to develop, but I’m gonna say approximately just over the 2 year mark? 

It’s difficult for me to give you advice though, in the sense that I don’t have pure-o OCD + I don’t know what your relationship is like or what you’re feeling, etc.

but if you’re worried about whether or not this is the right person for you, I think you should try to reflect on how being with him makes you feel right now. I figure if the relationship is deserving of the opportunity to mature, the answer should probably be an extremely positive one

p.s. don’t apologize, you’re so sweet and lovely and I sincerely hope all the best for you <333 

THAT’S SO NICE TO HEAR awwwww thank you

and I think everyone feels like they could use more passion. personally I was really surprised to read this! because I often complain to my loved ones that I don’t have enough of it lol

so moral of the story: don’t be too hard on yourself bbcakez, I’m sure you’re doing your own thang just fine <333

ALL ABOUT THAT GREEN FOOD

I think the general rule of thumb is birth control pills are effective after the first 7 days of use, but growing up I also heard that it can take up to a month, so first and foremost you should be consulting the pamphlet that came with your pill to verify that.

Secondly, doing some quick googling brings up that birth control pills average a success rate of roughly 92% (though my doctor always told me it was something closer to 88%). So many women in your situation feel comfortable not opting for extra protection. I, personally, do not. And any time there’s been a mess up (condom ripped, didn’t pull out quite in time [yes I’m comfortable with pulling out while on the pill {yes I’m aware precum contains sperm}], etc.) I’ve taken Plan B (that might be called the Morning After Pill or something where you are) to ensure a pregnancy doesn’t happen.

Taking it during the first 24 hours after unprotected sex is the most effective, but if it is taken within 3 days (72 hours) after unprotected sex, it will still decrease the chance that you will get pregnant by up to 89%. So if you’re like me (the opposite of cool with being pregnant at this point in your life), I’d advise getting your hands on it. I know these pills are available over the counter in most of Canada, but if you live in the states it might be different. As of April 30th, 2013 the FDA approved Plan B to be sold over the counter to people 15 years or older WITH PROOF OF AGE (so you’ll need some ID), but it’s not certain when this will go into effect, if it hasn’t already. If it hasn’t, you might want to visit a Planned Parenthood.

If for some reason you don’t have any access to Plan B, you **can** usually use your own birth control pills as emergency contraceptive. They need to contain progestin and estrogen. You take 1 asap (within the first 120 hours of unprotected sex), then you take the another exactly 12 hours later (x). AFTER YOU’VE DONE THIS YOUR PACK OF BIRTH CONTROL PILLS WILL NO LONGER BE ABLE TO PROTECT YOU FROM PREGNANCY. You will have to use condoms for the rest of the month, and start a new pack as you normally would after your period. (please please please read this info if you plan to use this method of ec)

So it’s up to you, but how I tend to see it in your situation is

option 1) Not take Plan B: Could possibly be pregnant. Odds are I’m not, but I could be.
option 2) Take Plan B: Probably definitely not pregnant. 

so I’m more of a fan of option 2  

you don’t even know how nice it was to read that right now! thank you so much (◡‿◡✿)

awww what LET’S HAVE A MUTUAL ADORATION PARTY

we can all just sit around and eat food and listen to music and adore on each other, it’ll be so great

I believe deep down I’ve always wanted to do my small part to help others feel at peace in their own skin, but I lacked the necessary tools in the sense that even though I was a victim of body-shaming from my peers (at school, mostly), I was also unwittingly dishing it out. Because I grew up in an environment, in a world, where it is terrifyingly acceptable. I may not have been bullying any specific person directly, but I openly shamed/ridiculed certain physical traits like it wasn’t wrong. A lot of what I said and believed was ok, was in fact very problematic. Even as someone with a sister who is a person of size, who I loved and only wanted the best for, I still participated in my fair share of fatphobia and healthism, because I straight up didn’t know any better. Translation: well-intentioned (I like to think most of the time at least), but ignorant as hell.

It was actually tumblr that started waking me the fuck up on this. I saw one post that basically made me go “Yeah…YEAH…shit yeah THAT MAKES SO MUCH SENSE” and I began digging into it, gradually realizing where I’d been going wrong and what I needed to change about myself, in order to both progress in my own body peace journey AND to be more of a decent person, especially as a conventionally attractive, able-bodied, thin, white girl with many privileges on her side.

Because the body acceptance movement actually ties into more than it initially seems. It’s not just a self-esteem campaign. It’s not solely about confronting and dismantling our own personal body issues. Or at least it can’t be in order to survive. Body-acceptance needs to consciously do its part to disrupt the male gaze, fuck up the patriarchy, end racism, fatphobia, transphobia, healthism, ableism (I’d go so far as to say capitalism too because of the whole “using people’s insecurities/creating insecurities to sell them Anti-Human Being Cream” thing, but I’m not super versed in capitalism so maybe I’m wrong here) and so on. Because for many people, the shit they get for their bodies doesn’t just end at becoming at peace with it on a personal level. Stepping away from the bathroom mirror and into the outside world, they’re still subjected to an array of negative social consequences, misrepresentation & lack of representation in the media, oppression and even violence because of how our society treats them for the bodies they’re in. And such things affect a person’s body image very early on in life (exhibit a). People of certain privilege(s) don’t have the same obstacles in their personal body peace journey as those who do not share that/those privilege(s).

So not only are the aforementioned issues technically bigger fish to fry, but more importantly from what I’ve seen, they are where body issues, body hate and body shaming stem from in the first fucking place. I find as I learn, it gets more apparent that, as relieving as it is, we can’t just keep trimming the Body-Hate Blossoms with dove soap love the skin you’re in campaigns and expect it all to go away on those sorts of efforts alone. No, we have to dig deeper. We gotta tear this motherfucker out by the roots. If we don’t, all the body acceptance movement really is, is a soothing cream for one symptom of a more sinister, deeply nestled societal malady ((ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:・ﾟ✧kyriarchy!✧・ﾟ:*). Not to say that we shouldn’t do what we can to ease the pain, not saying we shouldn’t try giving people the tools to cope with the affects this society has on their body image, but ignoring the cause isn’t going to heal shit. Ignoring the cause isn’t going to stop our children and our children’s children from developing the very same body issues. We need to address and make people aware of the source.

What inspires me to be so passionate? Idk, I don’t want to live and not contribute to the creation of a better world, even if all I can do is educate myself, improve myself, and hopefully somewhere along the way inspire others to do the same.

that’s really all there is to it.

Also, am I confident? Yes, I like to think most of the time. But I do have bad days, body issues, and fluctuating self-esteem. :)

How can one be confident? Practice. Treating yourself kindly. Sweet-talking your reflection. Fighting the good fight. Deep, steady, conscious breathing. Losing yourself in some quality time with another creature. Sharing. Understanding that though your body is miraculous and fascinating, you are still so much more than your body. And coming to terms with the fact that somehow you are both an insignificant speck in a vast ocean of swirling galaxies & nothingness, as well as the very center of your own universe. 

I apologize for subjecting you to this blundering essay of a reply. I love you. Live fully, be kind, stay curious, follow your bliss, and STICK IT TO THE MAN FREQUENTLY <3333

wat. where do you get “lots of horses” from?

I mean yeah I reblog ‘em here and there, but I definitely don’t reblog horses more than any other animal…I don’t think??

anyway sure I like horses. I like all animals. I’m basically ace ventura. you know the scene in nature calls where he’s meditating in the temple and there’s like, a bajillion animals around him and a halo of moths? that’s me (except imagine more of the animals actually **in** my hair because that seems to be a popular spot)

is this a serious question? what’s there to be uncomfortable about??

i’m confused


are you uncomfortable about the fact that you accidentally saw a family member’s junk? because…that happens to lots of people I’m pretty sure. I mean you all live in the same place and you’re all getting dressed and undressed in that place and yeah, whatever man, accidents happen. just try to be careful next time if it weirds you out or maybe tell your brother to start shutting his bedroom door

or are you uncomfortable about the fact that your brother has a large dong and you happen to enjoy large dongs? again, like…family members are people and they usually have genitals. just because you like big ol’ penises doesn’t mean that by default you’re jonesin’ for your bro’s. IT’S COOL MAN, YOU’RE COOL, you’re fine <333

the fact that you’re biding your time is like, instant indicator to me that you’re asking the wrong person

I’m a no time like the present type gal

so basically I’m over here like JUST TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL EITHER YOU OR HER COULD LITERALLY DIE AT ANY MOMENT AND THEN YOU’VE REALLY MISSED YOUR CHANCE HAVEN’T YOU??

so yeah that’s where I stand on that

I think I’m probably gonna be rather useless when it comes to this one, having had no personal experience with a situation like that before :(

um, but I guess from where I’m standing, fundamentally I think it comes down to whether or not you two like each other enough to go for it. You would, however, (I imagine) have to be *aware* of your cultural and social differences, and the complications that they might present (especially if one of you is white), and be openminded and prepared to work through any issues that arise due to them. On a spiritual, ooey-gooey level, I think love transcends all that stuff. But, on a rational level, I’m not so naive to think that living in a white supremacist society would make interracial dating a cakewalk

But like, again, I probably really don’t know what I’m talking about SO if one of my followers doesn’t jump to my rescue here with some valuable input (as they so often do bc they’re lovely and helpful like that), maybe consider seeking the counsel of someone who’s had experience dating people from different cultures? just an idea, anyway